When you end something big like The Great Loop, there’s a kind of gap afterwards. It can be an unsettling time, filled with satisfaction but also a sense of loss.
It’s important not to set anchor in this “after” gap because it can suck you down. It’s just as important not to rush through it because it can be instructive. It may even raise you up.
I left the Mainship Many Moons about two weeks ago, leaving behind a lifestyle that consumed me for a year. Since then, I’ve been sort of wandering around and sleeping a lot. Now, I’m finally undertaking the tasks and appointments that were waiting for me.
Why take my time? After all, I’m the consummate capable person! I get things done! 😉
Because I want to listen. And listening takes time. Transitions (of all types) are unsettling… but they can also be illuminating, if you listen to your discomfort.
We live in a “been there, done that” kind of culture. Cross another off your list! On to the next! I want to take time to absorb. After a completion or transition, I’m not (quite) the same person. But how have I changed? For me, change means growth. My greatest fear is to stop growing. So I want to I learn how I have changed…and, I hope, have grown.
I approached retirement that way, and am trying to approach the end-of-the-Loop the same way. Will I get some “aha’s?” Probably, if I stick with it. I may or may not tell you about them. Not everything should be shared with the world! 🙂
PS: If you’re struggling with transition or loss, of any kind, know when to call for help. We aren’t meant to walk through these things alone, and don’t have to. It’s helpful to know what kind of call to make. In Coast Guard jargon, “May-Day” means lives are in danger. “Pan-Pan” means a vessel is in distress. Either will bring response, but knowing what words to use can bring the right kind of response. As always, words matter…